How to help the Split-end Personality

“I can’t take it anymore!” cried my friend on the other line.

I listened for quite some time about the mess she was in. Her life had become a knotted mess and it was hard to think of anything I could say to encourage her. Her life had become so unmanageable, she was ready to just leave it and cut off all contact with those who helped to make the matted mess.

I know my friend has a relationship with the Lord. She knows her Bible. But in that moment, my friend was divided in her thoughts. She was all tangled up in her trial.


Someone who is divided is one who has a split – end personality. I am not saying my friend has a mental disorder of any kind. I am saying that her heated circumstances has caused a little damage to her faith. Just like excessive heat can damage the ends of your hair.

What causes someone to have a split end personality?

When there is excessive heat like a fiery furnace of some sort. The heated trials we face can literally cause a questioning of our faith. Is God really there? How can God allow this to happen to me?

We need to guard our hearts from split-end personalities or double mindedness as James describes:

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do (James 1:5-8, NIV). 

When we do not devote our time to reading His Word, and applying His style, then we end up getting all tangled up in our trials. They become our focus. It becomes all that we see when we look into the natural mirror. We see the matted mess as if it was going to stay that way. Loved one of God, I am here to tell you that it is only temporary. Your matted mess is not a permanent plan of His. He is using those tangles of trials and temptations to draw you to the source that detangles you, His Word.

 God’s Word detangles you from the tangles of life. He starts at your bottom and begins brushing down any tangles as He works His way up in your life.


Then we can use His style applied to our lives. What does His style look like?

He is a curled up scroll ready to unroll before the hearts of every man and woman. His style is an unconditional love for you. His style is wrapped in the foils of forgiveness. He blows His Spirit upon your head to give you waves of wisdom. His style is straight and narrow. He cuts off the dead stuff. The beauty of His style is found in the braids of His body, how they are intertwined and woven together. His style is colorful and His Word gives highlights to your path. He conditions the heart deeply.

When we allow His Word to detangle us from the tangles of our trials, then He can begin to style His ways into our lives. He has such a perfect plan for your pain.

“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows” (Luke 1:27, NIV).

What about you? When you are faced with a heated circumstance, do you run to God? Or do you split in half?

Could you be trying to walk the straight and narrow with one foot in faith and the other in the frizzy’s of fear?

Think about that a minute and comb out a comment or two. 🙂




About Jodie Dye

Originally from the Detroit, Michigan area, Jodie has made Bradenton, FL her home since October 2015. A former gang member and drug addict who had lost all hope of living, Dye felt the Lord calling her to follow him on Sept. 1, 1992. She has been following Jesus Christ for over 25 years with a greater addiction than she had with drugs. Her life testifies that God can create beauty from the hopeless cases in today’s society. What the enemy meant for her demise, God turned everything around and all things became new in her life. Bill and Jodie Dye married in October 10, 2010. They have three children each, making their lovely family a model of the brady bunch. Her calling is to prepare the Church for the coming of Jesus Christ. She is very passionate about helping people inside the Church walls to know their identity in Christ so they can be better equipped to live out what they believe. She has written four books with the focus on this preparation. Her book called Beauty Treatments: Prepare to Meet Your King helps the Bride of Christ prepare to meet King Jesus for when He returns. Jodie directs and hosts Beauty Treatment retreats, workshops and conferences. She has also been a speaker at various women's events and conferences. For more information on the next retreat, please visit
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6 Responses to How to help the Split-end Personality

  1. Lux Ganzin says:

    I like the analogy of the hair and our life. Messy hair : messy life. God’s word : hair treatment. He is the only one who can fix our life trouble as hair treatment is to tangled hair. Very wise of you, Jodie.


  2. Stefanie says:

    What an awesome post! I have to love anything with a hair metaphor 😀 I wonder what my disaster hair says about me, lol!

    Unfortunately, I totally AM this personality from time to time…

    Liked by 1 person

    • jodiesdye says:

      You are not alone with that one. I think we all can have this split end personality at times. We all wake up with bad hair days!! 🙂 Thankfully our Sovereign Stylist knows what to do with all those fly away faith days.


  3. Great analogy! Unfortunately, sometimes I think I’m split in two. This is a great reminder to rely on God.


    • jodiesdye says:

      Ah yes Shannon you are not alone. I am preaching to myself, to remind myself to be focused more on Him. Thanks for stopping by and being real with me friend. We all have a tendency to be split in half.


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