Does anyone ever rub you the wrong way? It is usually the people who are the closest to you that do. God is using the people in your life to make you a more beautiful bride of Christ. The abrasive of love sheds all walls of hostility. Walls of selfishness, prejudice, judgmental walls, and bricks of bitterness are among the few walls that can be broken down with just a little love. I call this a work of exfoliation.
If your children are the ones who consistently get under your skin, they are giving you the beauty treatment of exfoliation. They are helping you to shed the dead stuff in your life, like selfishness for example. They get on your nerves because they need you and you don’t have time for them. You have other things “more important” to do and they are in your way, they need something, and you are seeking your own interests. Wow have I failed in this area but the beauty of this is that every time I start seeking selfish ambitions, my children are the first to point it out in my life. I don’t know about you but I absolutely love, love, love to learn how to love through my children. They help me shed the dead stuff of selfish gain, and it makes me appreciate them all the more.
Mix equal parts of sugar and coconut oil and you have yourself a sweet abrasive. Take a tsp of your mixture and rub your hands and arms with it. How does that feel? It feels gritty and rough right? Now think of the person in your life that rubs you the wrong way; maybe it is your children, spouse, your parents, your friend, or possibly your co-workers or boss. Recall the ways that they get under your skin, or get on your nerves. Think about the ways it appears that they make your life seem rough.
Now run some warm water over your arms and hands, and feel the difference that abrasive has made. God has placed those individuals in your life for such as time as this to make you a more gentle, softer, brighter, and a more beautiful you. You may not see the difference they make in your life now, but maybe after seeing this visual you can see how those annoying acquaintances are used as abrasives to remove the dead stuff from your life.
There is no life in bitterness, un-forgiveness, gossip, slander, hostility, etc. We all need to shed the dead stuff daily. Jesus loved us so much he shed his blood so that we could shed the dead stuff. Jesus paid the price for that dead stuff, and it is no longer attached to us. As we pour the water of His Word on our lives, He begins to cleanse our minds to be renewed and refreshed in Him. He begins to moisturize your life with a fresh new outlook.
Psalm 44:3 says, It was not by their sword that they won the land, nor was it their arm that brought forth the victory; it was God’s right hand, His arm, and it was the light of His face because He loved us.
Basically what the psalmist is saying is this, “It is God’s love that wins, it is His love for us that brings forth victory.” If God’s love has the power to knock down walls and break down barriers, and God’s love is in you and me, then we can shine bright in this world being His hands and feet to love the unlovable.